AFL Grand Finals: Relationship tips for footy-mad lovers

Don’t be a sore loser if your partners team wins and yours doesn’t this AFL Grand Final.
Don’t be a sore loser if your partners team wins and yours doesn’t this AFL Grand Final.

WITH both WA football teams in contention for the grand final this AFL season, football fever has well and truly hit the state.

But what if you’re a die-hard Freo supporter and your other half barracks for West Coast?

Curtin University clinical fellow and relationship expert Amanda Lambros has offered a few tips to ensure peace reigns supreme at home this year.

She said there was no reason for partners to separate themselves when a game was on unless their teams were facing off and neither party could handle the heat of the contest.

“Be in the same room as long as the two opposing teams aren’t playing each other,” she said.

“It really comes down to communication: set some limits as to what type of supporting you each are going to do and don’t go beyond what you’ve set.”

Ms Lambros recommended setting rules for ribbing, because life goes back to normal once the siren sounds.

“If you’ve decided that you can slag the other team as much as you want but once the game is done, all goes back to normal, then you have to stick to those rules of engagement,” she said.

She said it was important to remember that is was only a game, and to play fair and play even.

“Your team may have won this time but they may lose next time, so if you don’t play fair this time, it can escalate as your partner might not play fair next time,” she said.

For others whose partner is football mad, and they are not, she said finals season was the perfect time to go out.

“Grab a group of non-football mad friends and go out together to get away from the madness,” she said.

She said compromise was key, and if you chose to stay and watch, remember one day they would participate in something they were not too keen on either.

“You might not like footy as much as your partner (but) there are times that you might want your partner to do something that they don’t enjoy as much as a matter of mutual support,” Ms Lambros said.

Tips for the survival of both parties – dos and don’ts.

DO enjoy yourself and the game

DO make time for each other

DO make clear rules on how to interact if opposing teams are playing

DON’T continue the banter beyond the game as this could cause annoyance, frustration and potentially arguments within the relationship.

DON’T sit and pout, if you’d prefer doing something else – go do something else

DON’T be a sore loser