JACOB Hammer realised something was not right when he could hardly force himself out of bed.
The Belmont resident stopped talking to friends, did not return calls, hardly saw family and was unable to live the life he wanted to live.
“There was no real consistency, just up-down, up-down,” he said.
For Dave Crispin, it was the sudden death of his partner 11 years ago that caused an eruption of unresolved pain to flood to the surface.
He said all the hurt from his mother’s death when he was 21 came rushing back.
With a business to run, a teenage daughter to consider and his own unresolved grief, he knew he needed help.
“It was around that time I decided it was bigger than I could deal with,” he said.
The pair spoke with Community News about their experience with depression and anxiety ahead of a fundraiser the duo are organising to raise awareness of mental health.
Golf With Balls, to be held in March, will combine a friendly nine-hole round at the Point Walter Golf Course with space for men to share their own challenges.
Mr Hammer said it was a feeling he could “handle this” on his own which delayed his first visit to the GP.
He hoped the golf day would show that it is ok to seek support.
“Once you know what you can get through and what you can accomplish by getting out of it, everything else in life becomes much easier,” he said.
The pair’s challenges are not uncommon, with 45 per cent of the Australian population estimated to experience a mental health condition in their lifetime.
Mr Crispin, a Beyondblue advocate from Byford, will share his own mental health challenges and offer tools to overcome them at the golf day.
He hoped people who attend will be encouraged to, like him, become advocates equipped with the tools to recognise others who are struggling.
He said online tools, like those offered by Beyondblue, were also extremely helpful.
“I guarantee someone has experienced or is going through what you’re experiencing,” he said.
The ambrose-style tournament will conclude with a barbecue dinner and drinks at the clubhouse.
Golf With Balls is aiming to raise $10,000 for Beyondblue.
If you or anyone you know requires help, contact Beyondblue on 1300 224 636 or Lifeline 13 11 14.
What: Golf With Balls golf day, supporting Beyondblue
When: 12pm to 6pm, Friday, March 9
Where: Point Walter Golf Course, Bicton