Domestic violence victim finds her voice

Performer Nez Erok, wearing a Ruth Tarvydas gown, in front of a Ferrari 458 at Xoticar. Picture: Andrew Ritchie www.communitypix.com.au d415303
Performer Nez Erok, wearing a Ruth Tarvydas gown, in front of a Ferrari 458 at Xoticar. Picture: Andrew Ritchie www.communitypix.com.au d415303

The domestic violence only stopped when she moved out of home and got married at 19.

‘It took me a long time to talk about it because there was so much guilt and shame,’ Ms Erok said.

‘I did a lot of self-development courses and that was really big for me.

‘I read books and the first one said ‘to love yourself’ and I thought, what does that mean?

‘What was familiar to me was depression, suicide attempts and bulimia.’

The mother-of-one’s best remedy was singing.

In 2010, Ms Erok released Beautiful as a dance track and was in the top 20 underground music charts for several months.

‘My mother would encourage me to sing and tell me that I was beautiful,’ she said.

‘She believed in me.

‘It’s about giving people a voice, telling people they are not alone in their suffering and knowing you are beautiful.’

The acoustic version of Beautiful was released in 2012 and the film clip produced by David Le May, which won cinematography awards in WA and SA, hit the market last year.

Ms Erok will perform the song at the Momentum Forum International Women’s Day Luncheon at Crown Perth on Friday, March 7.

The event promotes the prevention of violence against women and Xoticar is donating part proceeds from every sale made during March to the cause.

This year’s luncheon will include a Ruth Tarvydas fashion parade, and guest speakers US Consul-General Cynthia Griffin and Dana Vulin.

The fashion parade will feature the ’50 Shades of Grey’ dress worn by Ms Erok in the photo, and My Kitchen Rules contestants Chloe James and Kelly Ramsey will be at the event.

For tickets, call 1300 175 388 or visit www.momentumwf.com.au.